I hear this ALL the time, its one of the big reasons why people like myself (yes i’m a lesbian) aren’t allowed to have the same legal rights as a heterosexual would.
How can someone elses anything effect your marriage? Let alone people you have never met nor will ever meet???
If marriage between a man and woman is THAT weak then you all really have some serious internal issues you have to work on!
P.S. I know not all heterosexual people are against same sex unions 
lol amy its good to know you are not all bad 
thank you chaos
in my opinion, it can’t. these people are just afraid of what they don’t understand.
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You got me!
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It can’t. For the life of me, figure out how that would ruin or threaten our 14 year marriage. Adultery, addiction, financial woes, joblessness, all those things have threatened my marriage. But never gays getting married. I don’t get it. And I am a Christian. We’re not all horrid.
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I have no idea! The divorce rate in america is high already. I dont think same sex marriages have anything to do with that. Maybe if same sex marriages were allowed, it would balence that number out. At least yall stay together.
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I’m certainly not against it, but as I understand the argument, marriage as an institution is becoming less and less the gold standard of relationships. This is primarily a cultural change, but some suggest that by broadening the definition to include same-sex couples, we are further devaluing the coinage of marriage.
Like I said, not a very compelling arguement.
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i think it’s horrible, but it’s yet another struggle that a minority group has got to face.
social rights are hard for people to grasp when they fear the unknown. what will become of the nation if we let women vote? what will become of the nation if we let black people use the same toilet as us? what will become of the nation if we allow people with disabilities mingle with us able bodied and able minded people? and now, what will become of the nation if we allow homosexuals to wed?
who is speaking, you ask? middle and upper class, non-disabled, white men.
but over time, things do change. i’m not saying that it’s ok that homosexual couples don’t have the same rights as heterosexual couples… but i do see a bright and glorious rainbow on the horizon, where homosexual couples can enjoy the same rights as heterosexual couples, in the future.
keep hope alive, fight the good fight, power to the people!
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Wouldn’t affect my marriage at all. Any more than the 5 divorces in our 2 families have affected it, or the one same-sex partnership (with children) in one of our families has affected it, or the fact that a very old & good friend has been in a committed lesbian relationship for decades has affected it. We’ve been married 24 years, and that’s our responsibility. The rest isn’t really our business.
Actually, I take that back–the 5 divorces probably shook the institution way more…Funny how “til death do us part” turned into “’til I don’t like you anymore”… I always wondered if people who really wanted to defend marriage would agree to a law that required all divorced people to immediately go back to the first person they swore before God and the law to spend their entire lives with…
But to further address your question: while I think the “Oh, it’ll ruin marriage” argument is pure baloney, it may be the only way some people have to articulate their deep fear of something so long defined one way by the culture being suddenly altered in a way that makes them very very uncomfortable. I.e., while the institution per se may not really be threatened, THEY would be threatened, and in their mind that’s the same thing. Say “same sex marriage”–you see legal rights, fairness, a shared life that dare speak its name. They see gay sex at the altar, and society being irrevocably damaged as a result. At that point, rational argument gets done in by deep-seated emotion.
Further: even if you can rationally and clearly make the case about civil rights, marriage is also seen as as much a religious institution as a civil/social one, and that’s the one hurdle I don’t think will ever be conquered. You and I know (I assume) that homosexuality is an inborn trait. Many believe it’s a choice (though why one would choose that difficult course in life, I have no idea)–and a choice which the Bible condemns as a sin. If homosexuality is a choice, then the Bible is flawed, and if the Bible has that flaw, then…and the whole thing could come crashing down. And there’s just no simple answer for that.
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You have made a fabulous point! Are they that insecure about their own marriages? They don’t like what they can’t understand. We are no different from the time they problems with women voting and having rights or the african americans having rights. What they do not understand they put down and deny everything they can think of. I will be getting married to my woman but I am in a European country where I can. Where they don’t see the difference. It’s sad to me and that my country is supposed to be thus super power country that one should look up to and I can’t even have the same rights as my Girlfriend in Europe.
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n8tive_rebel, that is an excuse used by homobias to scapegoat against homosexuals. I personally do not see it as a way of ruining a heterosexual marriage.
Unless I am mistaken, didn’t racists use that excuse in the 50′s that interracial marriages will ruin the santity of marriage?
Of course I’ve also heard the excuse of heterosexual marriage is for the purpose of procreation; really? what about those couples who are not willing to have children, should the government or the religious organization they belong to be forced to seperate because they will not hqave children or those who can not have children, NO of course not.
n8tive_rebel, it is just people afraid of change and will use ignorance and scapegoating to get their way.
And of course they’ll use religion to back up their hatered and use it to scare people into hindering the rights of same sex couples..
I feel and know that same sex marriage will NOT ruin marriage.
Couples that are UNFAITHFUL to each other will ruin the santity of marriage.
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it doesnt peoole just like to cause drama! lol
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It can’t. It is a flimsy excuse used by the religious right.
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One thing has nothing to do with the other. This is just ignorant, uninformed people (who don’t want to learn otherwise) ranting. We have to keep fighting ignorance and prejudice and not let the stupid people run things.
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I am CERTAIN that MY marriage won’t harm that of anyone else.
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Well, they say that the most rabid homophobes are usually closet gays who can’t accept their own sexuality. So, maybe the people who claim that same sex marriage would ruin the “sanctity” of marriage are really fearing that if society accepted gays as equals, they would find it more and more difficult to hide from their true nature anymore. Faced with the reality of married gays, the temptation would be too great and they’d ditch their false hetero marriage for the hot same sex love they’d been too afraid to claim before.
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Wow, this is the first time I’ve read so many answers and had them all concur. Looks like you shut the fundies up for once. WAY TO GO N8TIVE!!!
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IT CAN’T THOSE PEOPLE WHO THINK IT CAN ARE JUST PREJUDICE AND THIS IS ANOTHER WAY TO KEEP THE GAY COMMUNITY SEGREGATED TO DENY GAYS AND LESBIANS THEIR LEGAL RIGHTS HETERO MARRIAGES ARE FRAGILE AND DON’T SEEM TO LAST PERHAPS THEY DON’T WANT GAYS AND LESBIANS TO SHOW THEM UP
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