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how do you tell your overly-religous christian mom that you’ve decided on a different religion?
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Paganism makes as much sense as your Mom’s religion.. Why do either of you need a “religion?” What is wrong with your inner self…probably nothing. You need only yourself to lean on.
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Wait until you are 18. Maybe by that time you can discover tolerance for her views.
Yes, YOU are as ‘over the top’ as she is!
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Sometimes discretion is the better part of valor, if you are not pursuing this till next year and you just gave her another shocker, what´s the point of dropping this news on her now. Wait a while.
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Say hey Mom, I’ve decided I want my soul to perish.
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Does she really need to know? I know that seekers who are new to Paganism often go through a period of ‘coming out’, but is it really necessary to tell anyone else?
If you already came out as a lesbian, then you can probably tell her about this without her freaking out too bad, I guess. Yeah, wait till you live at college.
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That is a difficult question, I don’t really have an answer for you. Many young children (teens) of religious parents “rebel” by going to a different religion (especially with people like Tom Cruse and George Clooney making “religions” like Scientology so in the public eye) but return to Christianity later in life. As for your original question, I am sorry to say that I don’t have an intelligent answer for you, no matter what, she will be upset because she cares about you.
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Wait until you are 18 and away from her. Don’t disappoint her like that..
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Jesus loves you, Tian, and always will.
Ask her to pray for you. Tell her that you are starting to get interested in Paganism and would appreciate her prayers.
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I don’t suggest being a pagan. But if your gonna do it…then tell your mom when your not in her house and far from her. Call her on the phone and give her the news. Don’t expect a nice conversation.
Then give her a few months to calm down and then visit her.
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Sounds like you have given in to Satan’s temptations and nothing nor anyone can tell you different. You are still young. But in a few years you will grow up and learn “Mom” was right all along.
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Please don’t base your beliefs out of spite of your mother. You’re only going to hurt yourself. If you are a lesbian, it’s no reason to turn away from God. God loves you no matter what, and all of us the same.
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Wait til your 18. My friend came out as a pagan to her grandmother and she hid her mail to prevent her from going to college. It ruined her.
P.S. Paganism is okay. but Don’t screw with free will!!! i.e. NO LOVE SPELLS!!! “Call Me” Spells are okay tho.
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it depends, having a relationship with God is far from being religious. Is she religious or real?
Satan cannot have you in the Name of Jesus. I plead the Blood of Christ over you. Jesus loves you. If you go away from Jesus you’ll have a VERY hard life.
I love you, please pray about it.
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It’s not really necessary to bring it up. I went through the same thing when I became Pagan many years ago. It wasn’t really in my best interest to tell my entire family because I knew what the outcome would be. If you really want to talk to her about it, I’d suggest taking some time to study and learn a bit about Paganism and what we do and don’t do. You can present this info to your mom and maybe she’ll understand.
In my personal experience, I haven’t found that to be the case. People with no idea whatsoever what my faith is about insist on telling me and everyone else over and over again what it is we believe and do. It’s quite entertaining to me as they expose themselves as the ignorant people they are quite nicely.
Good luck!
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I guess you should first ask yourself several questions before deciding for sure what you should do. First–”Why am I pursuing this?” Second–”Have I been influenced in any way to do this or is it all my idea?” Third–”What is it about what my mom believes that I dont believe, and have I researched these things out to find that they are not correct?”
Many times we make decisions based on feelings, our friends, a teacher that we admire, or another decision that we have made that seems to make our next decision valid. This is not the true way that a wise decision will be made. If you find that you have done the proper research on both sides of the issue and you have come to the proper conclusion then that is the decision that you will live with. The main thing is dont let other people make the decision for you.
I am a Christian and I believe that the way of the Bible is correct, but this is a decision I made by faith. I also believe that my decision can be proved, but again it still takes faith. My faith is in Jesus Christ and what I believe He did for me and the whole world. When I was young this was a decision that my parents made for me, but as I grew older it was one I studied out and came to understand for myself that it is true.
Now here is why I said all of that. The decision that you are about to make is also a decision of faith, so if you are to make the right decision then it must not only be researched but there must also be faith involved. If you truly believe with all your heart that you are making the right decision and you have the facts to back it up then what could your mother say? Yes, it probably would still break her heart, but she also knows that she cannot make you believe what she believes.
Just make sure you are making the decision and not someone else!!
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I wouldnt tell her, cause it would probably break her heart that she’ll be losing her baby. I dont think paganism is a good path for anybody to follow, but its your life and we have the freedom to do whatever we chose.
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This is a hard one, but I would wait until I was 18, and then try and let it come out in conversation. If the topic flows out naturally, instead of having “the talk” with her, so to speak, perhaps your mom will understand it’s become part of who you are, much like your sexuality. Good luck to you!
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Please don’t let the people telling you that you’ll “grow up” and realize Christianity was right bother you. Paganism is practiced by many adults, and while ALL religions have their share of kooky immature people (such as the Christians who need to feel big by insulting other people’s beliefs), I know many very mature and intelligent people who are Pagans. Many of these people came into it during their adult life after being Christians for years – they realized that there was something greatly lacking in Christianity, at least for them. So don’t let all these people tell you you’re going to hell. Figure out what you believe on your own without fear of punishment.
As for your mom, I’d say keep things relatively quiet about your religion until you’re on your own. If she’s strongly Christian as it sounds like, and you came out as a lesbian as well, you might be pushing the envelope a little too far. Since she already knows about your sexuality, you might be able to use that to try to get out of church. Say something to her like, “Christianity doesn’t accept me for who I am, so I’m not comfortable going and I want you to respect my wishes.” Try not to bash her religion, it might be tempting if she’s difficult with you, but it will just set it further in her mind that you need to be strong armed into her faith. Try to reason with her instead, as much as you can. You don’t have to give up pursuing Paganism, just don’t do anything too obvious at first. Read a lot of books on it and figure out what path you want to take (there are many varieties of Paganism), and try to get in touch with the basics even if you can’t practice larger rituals yet. Most of all, don’t give up yourself or let other people discourage you.
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Seriously, the BEST way to handle this is to show your mother that the religious traditions she already holds so dear are ALREADY STEEPED IN PAGANISM. Essentially, yours will be the less-encumbered religion since hers hypocritically CLAIMS to be Christian while actually reenacting ancient Babylonisms, animisms, and other pagan theologies.
Things like the Yule log, the cross, Easter eggs, Mary worship, Trinity, birthday celebrations, idolatry, sacerdotalisms, Halloween, the Pope’s hat, and even the superstitious refusal to use the divine name are all part of pagan worship. At the least, that will slow down your mom’s arguments. Jehovah’s Witnesses can help you learn more about which details of Christendom’s worship can be traced directly to pagan and Babylonish religions.
The rest of you so-called Christians who aren’t bothered by your religions’ “recycling” of paganisms need to ask yourselves why you are so comfortable with that false worship:
(2 Corinthians 4:3,4) If, now, the good news we declare is in fact veiled, it is veiled among those who are perishing, among whom the god of this system of things has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, that the illumination of the glorious good news about the Christ, who is the image of God, might not shine through.
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