I am not into the bar scene. I’m a completely different kind of lesbian. Pretty much a lesbian that came out of The L Word. I’m femme and want a monogamous relationship, but don’t know where to find a compatible partner. Most people go to the bars. I”m not into that. I’m more into my career, movies, beaches, art, music, literature and books. I’m more mellow and low key than the typical bar scene. What’s a single, hot, intelligent lesbian to do??
You could try some of the web chatrooms or put an ad on a dating website/newspaper
I’m bi.
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Online personals, but the best way is through friends. Be outgoing in your favorite scenes, wear a bit of pride wherever you go (rainbow earrings, a bracelet, shirt, shoelaces) as a source of identification. It’s okay to be obvious.
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Well depending on your town, you may have to just suck it up and go to bars. I don’t know where you live or what kind of lesbian scene you have, but I know plenty of monogamous femmes that go to bars. Try bars on a lesbian night, or the night of something like a lesbian targeted fund raiser.
Most lesbians hangouts are unofficial, the kind of thing you find out from word of mouth. For example, I know lots of lesbians who go a particular wine bar on thursday nights. Certain bars are stragiht bars, but they just attract a particularly liberal clinetel. So it can be hard to break in when you don’t know where to start.
Do you have any feminist book stores in your area? Thats always a good place to meet intelligent lesbians, or ask around to see where you can find lesbians in your community.
Also try political action campaigns, both in the standard gay politics and in the realm of feminist activism. That’s going to get you out and meeting people. Even if you don’t want to sleep with any of these people, most of finding partners is networking. You can also go online and try to find gay groups in your area, or check out social groups like Drinking Liberally. Make friends before you make dates.
The best way to meet people is through friends. That is going to weed out most of the freaks. In order to do that, you need to come out to the friends you have, and make new gay or lesbian friends.
I don’t know your age, but if you’re young, maybe you should see if any colleges by you have gay clubs, activist groups, or social centers. Going to college is a great way to meet other gay folks, just sign up for plenty of Women’s Studies, History of sexuality, and if possible, Queer or LGBT Studies classes.
Some larger cities have LGBT resource or counseling centers. You might want to stop by and see what they have to offer. Anything from a coming out support group to a lesbian softball team to a pride planning committee is going to introduce you to people.
Finally, real lesbian life is not like The L Word. Not everyone is white, skinny, has insane ammounts of disposable income, and lives such odd melodramatic lives. Even the femmes.
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try yahoo personals… Good Luck
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It depends on where you live,,,In most states,,especially California,,there are these places called Gay and Lesbian Center. They have weekly meetings there,,just for women and just for men,,it’s a chance to get out and meet people outside of the bar scene,,friends or girlfriends,,,,and there are a range of ages too,,,that’s where I met my fiance and 2 previous girlfriends and lots of current friends…
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Well, you could suck it up, like someone else said, go to the bars and chances are…you will meet someone who is in your own shoes. Think about the kinds of things a woman you want might do. Maybe try volunteering. Yes, alot of us volunteer with GLB groups in our areas. Or, organize a non-bar-hopping get together. Lots of things you can do, even try the internet. Just be careful. I found my current GF on lesbiansingles.com
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Check out the Yahoo Lesbian Chatrooms. I myself have met quite a few really nice people through them.
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your problems are solved. you found me;)
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*lol* i like punkrocker’s answer *giggle*
ok…well, you can try here:
http://www.fridae.com/
there are members all over the world. just make some friends first (those who live near you) & see how it goes.
i know many gays & lesbians who don’t like loud music & crowded places. they are professionals who enjoy weekends with family, pets & close friends.
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