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Gay/Lesbian Americans with foreign partners….?

Posted on October 9, 2011 by admin| 7 Comments

Do you think it’s fair that the american government continues to deny Gay/Lesbian americans the right to bring their foreign partners to live with them in the USA, even though the partners may well be in long-standing committed relationships or are legally married to eachother under the laws of a another country.
Big Bear Ron and Sammy Lynne…
I can completely sympathise with you both.
I am also in a same-sex binational relationship…i’m a brit and my partner is american. Like you, we are having to deal with the harsh reality of american law and it’s unfair treatment of people in our situation.
My partner and i have been together for 2 years now, it’s been an expensive 2 years with the regular transatlantic visits…let alone the worry of being rumbled by homeland security everytime i go there, they would probably put me on the next plane back to England if they found out i was seeing an american woman. (it would be a non-issue if she was a guy!)
But the good news is…My partner will be moving here to the UK in a few months and we will be getting Civil Partnered, so she’ll be able to stay here with me :-) …not that the civil partnership is worth the paper its written on in the states :-(
Hopefully one day U.S law will change to make life more fair and equal for folks like us.

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what’s best way to interact with a women who has borderline personality disorder, especially when she’s angry?

Posted on September 10, 2011 by admin| 10 Comments

the women is 38 years old with many exclusively classic and complete symptoms of bdp- a true case study with great abandonment issues and a deep, deep denial mechanism. She has just ‘lured’ me in with trust to open up again and she just had an angry outburst filled with twisted reality-all meant to blame me and deflect the root problems. She usually has outburst of anger lasting four to five days with which she barely will apologize and compromise on the reality of what and why it happened. She exhibits little remorse and is very protective of her emotions. Family history is filled with bdp and abuse. She also has an eating disorder, has slept with an adolescent client, engaged in lesbian relations for a few years, now exclusive to men, and has been in most relationships with addicts of some sort. She admits that she manipulates her therapists and has stopped seeing her most recent one. She actually is a certified Marriage and Family Therapist currently practicing.

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How do you keep the spark alive in a lesbian relationship?

Posted on July 22, 2011 by admin| 3 Comments

To clarify:”Lesbian bed death” is a phrase used in the gay community when two women in a long term monogamous relationship stop being intimate with one another. Only women in relationships with other women answer this question please…I’m trying to figure out how to make my 3 year relationship with my g/f work. Thanks

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I feel Very Ashamed. . .?

Posted on June 8, 2011 by admin| 6 Comments

I am 19 years old and in college. I am afraid to date. I am afraid of the opposite sex ( not that I’m lesbian) and feel that I could never sustain a realtionship. I would like to and dream of the day I find a man I can really relate to and like. I was very sheltered when I was young, I never went out with friends and that made my friendships really suffer ( I cannot tell you the amount of friend opportunites with good people I missed) simply because my parents/( mom) didnt know them or thier parents and were scared. I never went to sporting evens.I was an only child and basically my life was home,school,church,piano lessons. Well I need help with this, Im almost embarrased to have a boyfriend ’cause I dont understand how relationships work and am afraid to talk with my parents about this.I’ve never had a boyfriend before. I am really just afraid of what my parents would think, I mean they know I am growing up,but I feel embarrased to say I have a significant other to them. Any help?

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I really need advice on this relationship….?

Posted on April 7, 2011 by admin| 4 Comments

Hi could really use some advice… I’m not sure if I am bisexual or lesbian, I just know I’ve had relationships both with men and woman, but the most intense ones have been with women. Right now I got involved with a really close friend, but she’s just going to turn 17 and I’m 31. That’s my first problem, the big age difference, we don’t care, but I’m sure other people would think it’s sick or something.

I never told my family any of this, but yesterday my mom asked me if I was a lesbian, and if I had a relationship with this “friend” and I just couldn’t deny it to her face. I’m not sure how she’ll handle everything, since I’ve always been her “perfect daughter”.

Now my other problem is, I don’t live in the US, my girlfriend does, and the whole long distance thing is really hard too. People where I live are a lot more close minded than in the US. You don’t usually see girls together, and it’s definitely not socially accepted at all. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Thanks weaversscc2004 and mel. We are thinking of having her move over here when she can, but I live in a very close minded society…
Thanks broke!that was really helpful. I can´t visit once a month cause we live really far, but we do talk on the phone a lot and use a webcam. I´d love to get in touch with you…

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