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what’s best way to interact with a women who has borderline personality disorder, especially when she’s angry?

the women is 38 years old with many exclusively classic and complete symptoms of bdp- a true case study with great abandonment issues and a deep, deep denial mechanism. She has just ‘lured’ me in with trust to open up again and she just had an angry outburst filled with twisted reality-all meant to blame me and deflect the root problems. She usually has outburst of anger lasting four to five days with which she barely will apologize and compromise on the reality of what and why it happened. She exhibits little remorse and is very protective of her emotions. Family history is filled with bdp and abuse. She also has an eating disorder, has slept with an adolescent client, engaged in lesbian relations for a few years, now exclusive to men, and has been in most relationships with addicts of some sort. She admits that she manipulates her therapists and has stopped seeing her most recent one. She actually is a certified Marriage and Family Therapist currently practicing.

How do you keep the spark alive in a lesbian relationship?

To clarify:”Lesbian bed death” is a phrase used in the gay community when two women in a long term monogamous relationship stop being intimate with one another. Only women in relationships with other women answer this question please…I’m trying to figure out how to make my 3 year relationship with my g/f work. Thanks

I feel Very Ashamed. . .?

I am 19 years old and in college. I am afraid to date. I am afraid of the opposite sex ( not that I’m lesbian) and feel that I could never sustain a realtionship. I would like to and dream of the day I find a man I can really relate to and like. I was very sheltered when I was young, I never went out with friends and that made my friendships really suffer ( I cannot tell you the amount of friend opportunites with good people I missed) simply because my parents/( mom) didnt know them or thier parents and were scared. I never went to sporting evens.I was an only child and basically my life was home,school,church,piano lessons. Well I need help with this, Im almost embarrased to have a boyfriend ’cause I dont understand how relationships work and am afraid to talk with my parents about this.I’ve never had a boyfriend before. I am really just afraid of what my parents would think, I mean they know I am growing up,but I feel embarrased to say I have a significant other to them. Any help?

I really need advice on this relationship….?

Hi could really use some advice… I’m not sure if I am bisexual or lesbian, I just know I’ve had relationships both with men and woman, but the most intense ones have been with women. Right now I got involved with a really close friend, but she’s just going to turn 17 and I’m 31. That’s my first problem, the big age difference, we don’t care, but I’m sure other people would think it’s sick or something.

I never told my family any of this, but yesterday my mom asked me if I was a lesbian, and if I had a relationship with this “friend” and I just couldn’t deny it to her face. I’m not sure how she’ll handle everything, since I’ve always been her “perfect daughter”.

Now my other problem is, I don’t live in the US, my girlfriend does, and the whole long distance thing is really hard too. People where I live are a lot more close minded than in the US. You don’t usually see girls together, and it’s definitely not socially accepted at all. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Thanks weaversscc2004 and mel. We are thinking of having her move over here when she can, but I live in a very close minded society…
Thanks broke!that was really helpful. I can´t visit once a month cause we live really far, but we do talk on the phone a lot and use a webcam. I´d love to get in touch with you…

Lesbian Couples: A Guide to Creating Healthy Relationships

Lesbian Couples: A Guide to Creating Healthy Relationships

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Written by two experienced lesbian therapists, Lesbian Couples covers a range of topics—commitment ceremonies and marriage, living arrangements, work, money, togetherness and separate identities, coming out to family and friends, resolving conflict and understanding each other—and uses a variety of helpful examples and problem-solving techniques, drawing from research done on lesbian couples over the past decade. The book pays special attention to differences of race, class, age and physical ability, and addresses the issues raised when one or both partners are recovering from alcohol, substance, or sexual abuse. The book also addresses differences that lesbians may encounter in their relationships regarding such issues as butch-femme, transgender identity, bisexuality, monogamy and sado-masochism. Thoroughly readable and extremely helpful, with an updated resource guide, Lesbian Couples is a book that every lesbian will want to own.Surely there are couples who don’t need books like this: blessed as they are with flawless unions, enduring passion, and equitable chore distributions, with never a sharp word, a demanding ex-lover, or a roving eye. The rest of us can consult Clunis and Green every 45 minutes. With sections on building intimacy, making decisions, communicating, and addressing issues of race and age difference, among other topics, Lesbian Couples at least touches on most of the conflicts that a lesbian couple will face (a list of resources at the back will help readers pursue specific interests). The chapter on conflict resolution is exceptional, but the chapter on sex seems brief and perfunctory by comparison, perhaps because it has been written about so extensively elsewhere. This major revision of a lesbian self-help classic may be illuminating not only for couples but also for single women hoping to build the qualities needed for successful relationships, especially in the wake of a break-up. –Regina Marler

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